klusterfuk wrote:LiLiNY81 wrote:AlbertaGirl70_ wrote:If you don't have sex at some point before marriage, how do you know that your compatible sexually for the rest of your life?Maybe she will hate something that you'll want or vice versa...Not that I believe in whoreing around by any means,but sexually compatibility is a HUGE part of marriage...there is no way I'd want to find all that out after you have comitted to a lifetime together..Just for reference I've been married 20 years
Meh, I somewhat disagree with that. People aren't automatically sexually compatible, you become compatible. If you think that you can't be in a relationship with someone because they won't do something sexually that you want or vice versa, there might be a bigger problem there. Being married for 20 years, you should know what compromise is all about...and congrats on 20 years. That's not heard of too often nowadays!
To add my two cents, I think if you find someone that you connect with on all levels, sex shouldn't play that big of a part. If this person is someone you can truly call a partner in every sense of the word, it would definitely be worth waiting for. It's not a question of "should I wait" with someone, it's more of a "is this person going to be the one I've waited for?" If that makes any kind of sense
Sex is one of the levels. You don't buy a car without driving it,or shoes without trying them on. You gotta see if you both can get the funk on, otherwise marriage wont work. I've been married 19 years myself and didn't save anything.
Agreed. I think if you can't get the funk on it will spread to other aspects of your marriage and you will end up resenting each other. Although just because you don't gel the first time you have sex with someone doesn't mean you can't end up rocking each other's worlds.
I mean sure sex it isn't the only part, but then you would just be friends.
Of course I am not married and sometimes I can't wait until the second date I kid. I kid.