Talking about Pearl Jam...

[cyndarious1]

Last friday my girlfriend and I decided to spend the night listening to some music, drinking some beer and just chatting about the times when we were younger. I'm 24 and she's 20, and we've been together for 2 years and a half. It had been kind of a long time since the last time we did this, and I really enjoyed it. I put Revolver and Beatles for Sale on the Ipod and we listened to them back to back. We talked about plenty of things and then we got into music, and then into Pearl Jam.

I bought us tickets to the upcoming Pearl Jam show here in Chile. I saw them in 2005 and this would be my third time. She has never seen them, but she likes them, at least she understand my feelings about the band, besides she's very encouraging with everything I do and like. I've always been a very passionate guy about the things I love, and Pearl Jam is the best expression of that. Anyway, we kept talking and eventually we got to a point where I was explaining to her how much I love the band and how much different they are from any other rock group. I told her that any Pearl Jam fan would say to a person that is not into them: their music is great and honest, their shows are a unique experience and they have walked away from the rock hero persona that most bands tend to take these days. But finally, I told her that Pearl Jam was about the fans.

She said she didn't know that, and that she'd always thought they were kind of fake. For her, trying to get out of the spotlight as rock heroes and doing some activism didn't make sense since they're still famous and earn tons of money. There's no difference between Pearl Jam and any other rock group for her. There was no way she would understand the point of Pearl Jam, and she compared them to bands and pretentious local artists who I really hate. After a wonderful night I got really sad. She seemed to be trivializing one of the few things that I trully believe in, and that I really love. The worst part is that I wasn't able to give her a clear explanation on why Pearl Jam has such an effect on me. I just like them, like I'm sure many of you do.

She apologized later. She said that it wasn't her intention to hurt me or anything, and that It was okay with her if I didn't want to go with her to the show. I said there was no problem at all and that I would take her anyway, since I'd like her to see them live and then decide whether she really liked the feeling of being there or not.

As I wrote above, she gets my love for the band, but she doesn't feel the same way I do. I really hope she enjoys the show and at least feel a bit of what I felt at the concerts in 2005. It would be awesome for me to share this with someone I really love.

Thanks for a reading such a long post.

Peace!

[F Me In The Brain]

Break up with her. Now.

Just kidding!

I have been with my wife for 13-14 years and she lives w.my PJ addiction - but she doesnt really understand it. She does go to shows with me and likes them....but the fact that my car is always PJ and my DVD is always a PJ show....it adds up to get on her nerves.
(She is getting a trip to Vancouver out of it so that we can see PJ on the last stop of their CA tour.)

As you get a little longer into the relationship I think you will have more shared experiences and while they may or may not be PJ experiences they will undoubtedly shine more light on who you both are and how you work. She will get it!
[Maybe after she goes with you to the show she will be a convert!]

[tomonia]

I think you are lucky that even though she dose not love them as much as you do she accepts your love for them. By wanting to go to the concert with you she wants to understand you better, and by saying that she will understand if you don’t want to go with her to the show (after your talk) she proved that she respects you and your devotion to PJ… and so on.

BTW you could tell her that in spite of them being amazing human beings: honest, real, humble, sometimes funny, sometimes sad just one of a kind – just like life you could tell her that no matter where you are, what you do, how you feel if you have their music, when you listen to them the world becomes a better place and you feel like home - at least that’s how PJ works on me.

[tinkerbell]

My husband doesn't get it either! Never has and never will. He tolerates the constant PJ music and has come to a show with me but he just doesn't get it - he's not really into music. We have plenty else in common so it doesn't bother me.

[ozgurkd]

My husband doesn't get it either! Never has and never will. He tolerates the constant PJ music and has come to a show with me but he just doesn't get it - he's not really into music. We have plenty else in common so it doesn't bother me.

My husband and I also don't have music and film taste the same but we're pretty good. I watched some movies I would never ever havewatched eearlir with him and now he can watch cubtitled movies with me it's cute

in musci some are so different but even 1 match would do it for me. The Doors

I love your name by the way, I think the world can be a better place with fairies

take care

[tinkerbell]

My husband doesn't get it either! Never has and never will. He tolerates the constant PJ music and has come to a show with me but he just doesn't get it - he's not really into music. We have plenty else in common so it doesn't bother me.

My husband and I also don't have music and film taste the same but we're pretty good. I watched some movies I would never ever havewatched eearlir with him and now he can watch cubtitled movies with me it's cute

in musci some are so different but even 1 match would do it for me. The Doors

I love your name by the way, I think the world can be a better place with fairies

take care

Thanks

Our differences are what attracted us to each other in the first place, our common musical taste is Fleetwood Mac.