Last friday my girlfriend and I decided to spend the night listening to some music, drinking some beer and just chatting about the times when we were younger. I'm 24 and she's 20, and we've been together for 2 years and a half. It had been kind of a long time since the last time we did this, and I really enjoyed it. I put Revolver and Beatles for Sale on the Ipod and we listened to them back to back. We talked about plenty of things and then we got into music, and then into Pearl Jam.
I bought us tickets to the upcoming Pearl Jam show here in Chile. I saw them in 2005 and this would be my third time. She has never seen them, but she likes them, at least she understand my feelings about the band, besides she's very encouraging with everything I do and like. I've always been a very passionate guy about the things I love, and Pearl Jam is the best expression of that. Anyway, we kept talking and eventually we got to a point where I was explaining to her how much I love the band and how much different they are from any other rock group. I told her that any Pearl Jam fan would say to a person that is not into them: their music is great and honest, their shows are a unique experience and they have walked away from the rock hero persona that most bands tend to take these days. But finally, I told her that Pearl Jam was about the fans.
She said she didn't know that, and that she'd always thought they were kind of fake. For her, trying to get out of the spotlight as rock heroes and doing some activism didn't make sense since they're still famous and earn tons of money. There's no difference between Pearl Jam and any other rock group for her. There was no way she would understand the point of Pearl Jam, and she compared them to bands and pretentious local artists who I really hate. After a wonderful night I got really sad. She seemed to be trivializing one of the few things that I trully believe in, and that I really love. The worst part is that I wasn't able to give her a clear explanation on why Pearl Jam has such an effect on me. I just like them, like I'm sure many of you do.
She apologized later. She said that it wasn't her intention to hurt me or anything, and that It was okay with her if I didn't want to go with her to the show. I said there was no problem at all and that I would take her anyway, since I'd like her to see them live and then decide whether she really liked the feeling of being there or not.
As I wrote above, she gets my love for the band, but she doesn't feel the same way I do. I really hope she enjoys the show and at least feel a bit of what I felt at the concerts in 2005. It would be awesome for me to share this with someone I really love.
Thanks for a reading such a long post.
November 22nd, 2005.