it's just a broken heart...

[Smoke In A Tree]

Unfortunately I can relate to you on this one. Had my heart broken 5 years ago and occasionally can still feel the pain, it just comes up from nowhere. She was my best friend for so many years and we both crossed that line and that's when the pain started. I turned her onto to Pearl Jam and we both had the privilege to enjoy them together, saw so many shows together. Every song in the Pearl Jam catalog become foot sprints of our lives, powerful to say the least. When it ended the songs became unbearable to listen to so I had to walk away from Pearl Jam for a year, hardest thing I ever had to do since I have been a hardcore fan since the very beginning. One day woke up and the pain went away and the very first thing I did was take Pearl Jam back and when I did that the healing started. Jesus Christ I missed the boys, Nothingman, Black & Untitled were no longer a dagger in my heart, the songs came full circle and brought me happiness again!

Your heart will mend and you will get over this, stay positive and keep your heart open man, someone will come inside if you let them, that choice is yours. Don't build a wall like I did for so many years, gets F'N lonely in there!

[morgannspicer]

I'm so sorry this happened to you but I know how you feel. I left a man I was with for seven years who shattered my heart and wrecked my world.

He was cheating on me. Never admitted he was and never apologized. I left and he moved in with "her" two weeks later. I was 700 miles away from home. Picked up everything and started over and my sibling had died three months prior in a car accident. I felt like I had NOBODY and NOTHING.

For a time I refused to listen to Pearl Jam because it made me think of my brother and immediately I associated it with death and negativity. I pulled my head out of my arse and listened to the lyrics and found out it was quite the opposite actually.

The rest as they say is history...

Pearl Jam was my brother's favorite band and the favorite band of his friends who are all like "little brothers to me" - I bought tickets for the Van Andel 2006 show and went with a few friends, my first PJ concert.

I've seen Pearl Jam three more times since and have been dating one of "my boys" for over six months now. He started out as one of "the Pearl Jam guys" but things had hanged after the 2010 Noblesville PJ show.

I was afraid of showing anybody any type of feelings (I still am to a degree which is why I'm on edge a lot at times with my current boyfriend but he's got the patience of a saint) because I don't want to hurt ever again. I never thought I'd come out of the abyss I was in six years ago.

My boyfriend had been cheated on as well about the same time (and had been hurt worse than me I think at times) so we confided in each other. He's now my best friend and a man I can say I truly love.

If it hadn't been for Pearl Jam, I don't know where I'd be or if I'd even be here at all for that matter. It brought me out of the hell my life was and even helped me find love again.

It will take time but please don't give in or give up but don't close your heart up forever. I understand keeping it shut for a time but somebody will find their way to you and make you feel again.

I never dreamed Pearl Jam would be my saving grace. I hope they are yours again eventually. You have a wonderful support group of Pearl Jam fans who are all here for you. Talk to us.

[my_wave]

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[morgannspicer]

wow! thanks for sharing, i could reply by writing a book, but i won't... i'll just say that things are getting better, and i'm happy again... it still hurts, and i still love her, but it's something i'm learning to live with it, there's really nothing else i can do... all i know is that i'll always have pearl jam!

I'm glad you're doing better although still recovering. I was very worried about you when I read your message last week and hoped you'd see all the awesome support you're getting.

Just hang in there. It takes time, but things will right themselves out and you'll find that happiness again.

[STAYSEA]

Life is short.. Just Breathe..
Dating is crazy.. I don't get it yet? never will. Seems like fun? not

[STAYSEA]

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[STAYSEA]

wow! thanks for sharing, i could reply by writing a book, but i won't... i'll just say that things are getting better, and i'm happy again... it still hurts, and i still love her, but it's something i'm learning to live with, there's really nothing else i can do... all i know is that i'll always have pearl jam!

PEARL JAMMMM
yes!!! the reason!
the motive
Life