it's just a broken heart...

[my_wave]

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[InsideMan]

I just went through this, brother. In fact, I'm still 10% attached to the girl that I was with. It has been a struggle of a couple months, but you have to just surround yourself with everything that makes you happy. I found that one of the best remedies was to hang out with my friends. Just being around people and keeping yourself busy will help alleviate some of the pain and frustration. Keep your head up. There are more of us out there in the same boat than you realize.

[my_wave]

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[The Oracle]

My feelings are with you both. Going through similar torture at present, (although she wasn't a PJ fan) and I thought at my age I'd handle it better, having been 3 thru long-time loves before, but it is yet another scar on the heart. I slept for 2 days, was walking dead for a few days but I realise life goes on, however painful and empty it seems for a while.

One thing I do know for sure is that time does heal, and hopefully you'll feel like I do about my previous loves - as I remember the good times we had, not the end.

You'll be fine I reckon, as you've taken a positive leap already by posting this....and I thank you both because it's helped me too!

Surrounding yourself with people is the way to go, do things you love doing, throw yourself into work, if possible, just keep busy. Live moment by moment for a while if you wish, as I did, look forward and eventually it gets easier.

[Juan Godoy]

sorry to hear that men..

try try try - the smashing pumpkins i think that could help, and if you watch the video, it's very sad, but i guess you will feel better with yourself..

cheer up my friend!!

[The Oracle]

Wow - that's stark! Love Billy Corgan, and his lyrics, hadn't seen that before, thanks Juan.

[Juan Godoy]

Wow - that's stark! Love Billy Corgan, and his lyrics, hadn't seen that before, thanks Juan.

your welcome my friend!!

that's song is amazing, the video is something reaaally touching.. don't you think so?

[my_wave]

thanks...

[Malcolm-Edge]

Through my recent breakup, to a girl I had a ring for, I lost myself in two bands. Pearl Jam and U2. The Pearl Jam song I connected to most was "Elderly Woman". I kind of saw it as a narration of bumping into that person you never thought you'd get over years and years later, and one line helped me through it all. "Hearts and thoughts they fade away", and its 100% true. There is no set time for them to begin to fade, but they do begin to fade away.

If you want to listen to pure angst about love and loss however, get U2's Achtung Baby. It was written almost solely about The Edge's divorce, and the tension of them almost breaking up. "One" resonated with me, as well as, "Who's Going To Ride Your Wild Horses".

We all love and lose, but remember not all love goes bad, keep yourself ready to love again bro.

[bennett13]

Been there, dude....boy, have I been there! Trust me on this, though. It gets better. And better. And better still. For a while, you won't think it will, but it does. In the meantime, allow me to recommend 2 albums that helped me through the darkest days of my life...albums that seemed to be speaking directly to me...or for me...or with me. These are universal feelings that most people go through.

1. Ryan Adams - "Heartbreaker"
2. Bob Dylan - "Blood on the Tracks"

[PJChiFan91]

I feel the pain man. Pearl Jam is the best musical outlet I feel, just keep listening to them, things will come around eventually.

My two biggest songs to listen to for release are:

Release (no pun)

Alive

[pennylane106]

listen to 'low rising' and 'say it to me now' by glen hansard....also 'alien' by bush....

I agree though, 'release', 'sometimes,' 'untitled' and 'black' always make me feel better.

also, try to find (on youtube or otherwise) the song eddie wrote on the second day of PJ20.
"i'm so glad we made it..."

amazing songs and have helped me recently. hope you're feeling better.

[STAYSEA]

Yep a broken heart. She left you... He left me... They leave...
I coming out of a 15 year relationship. and I'm only 30!
I am listening to the first PJ concert I went to... Houston, tx 0ct 14, 2000. That is the last time I was so happy that I cried. Thinking back to that night, If I would have know that was to be my happiest moment ever, I would not have let him sneak out as the encore played! I would have sat my ass down, and waited, they played a second show the next night in the same place (Houston has like 12 million people). I'm so broken hearted, and I have been a super bitch to all the little boys trying to get some. But they won't get some! I'm pretty sure that no one is "man" enough to be my man. Just remember that everytime Pearl Jam plays... they have to think of you! if You are breaking up... at least get custody of Pearl Jam! I am certain this is all that matters in life. and sometimes You would rather be with an animal!

[davidronn]

listen to 'low rising' and 'say it to me now' by glen hansard

Yes! Good choices.

As far as books go, there's a great book called Dark Nights of the Soul by Thomas Moore. It talks about all the crushing things that happen to a person and actually helps shed some light on why they're good and important. I've read it a few times. It's been very helpful to me.

[evil lil goat]

I feel ya, my wife of left me for no apparent reason on July 17th of this yr too. Breakups are never easy & always complicated. I'm sort of a music junkie & listen to a little of everything, but PJ was & still is the best remedy for me. Maybe try some Josh Ritter (the old stuff) or a little Phoenix for a change of pace